Monday, September 14, 2009
Thursday, July 09, 2009
My Children...
My Children...
I love my children with all of my heart.
I've loved them from the beginning...right from the start.
I can't force anyone to love them as I do.
They're the ones missing out...if only they knew.
There are people who are selfish and think they have to compete.
They love noone but themselves, they are so incomplete.
I'm ashamed to have my children related to such trash.
Especially since their family values and ours really clash.
So, I've loved my children from the beginning...right from the start.
And, I will ALWAYS love my children with all of my heart.
Tiffany Sue Roberts
I love my children with all of my heart.
I've loved them from the beginning...right from the start.
I can't force anyone to love them as I do.
They're the ones missing out...if only they knew.
There are people who are selfish and think they have to compete.
They love noone but themselves, they are so incomplete.
I'm ashamed to have my children related to such trash.
Especially since their family values and ours really clash.
So, I've loved my children from the beginning...right from the start.
And, I will ALWAYS love my children with all of my heart.
Tiffany Sue Roberts
Wednesday, July 08, 2009
Tuesday, July 07, 2009
Sunday, July 05, 2009
Saturday, July 04, 2009
Monday, June 29, 2009
Sunday, June 28, 2009
All Smiles!
Finally, able to scrapbook a little bit! I won't even tell you what I have to do in order to scrapbook...work on the scrapbook page on the desktop, save it on some little gadget that plugs into the back of my laptop and then get on the internet...good grief!
But...my page turned out just darling...my perfect little angel is just adorable!
Friday, June 26, 2009
A Nice Article About Parents Who Play Favorites...Thanks, Dr. Phil!
Do you openly show favoritism to one of your children? Is your bond stronger with a certain child than another? Certainly, the less-favored child can suffer from your alliances, but you may be surprised to learn that playing favorites has a negative affect on all children in the home, including the “star” child.
When parents focus more love and attention on one child, all the children begin to feel that their parents’ behavior is unfair and unpredictable, which creates resentment and uncertainty. It also affects sibling relationships, leading to higher levels of anger and aggressiveness. The less-favored child carries around feelings of not being good enough, wondering, “What am I doing wrong?” This leads to low self-esteem, anger and acting out for attention, even negative attention. The favored child will begin to feel his/her sibling’s resentment, and may even begin to hate being treated as the special child.
Dr. Phil cautions parents who play favorites and show preferential treatment to one child over another. He speaks with his guest, Kim, who says she can’t help but feel a stronger bond with her middle child because she’s still in love with his father, and still mourning their divorce. Dr. Phil tells her that what she’s doing is toxic to all her kids. The oldest, who’s 14, is still looking for that “soft place to fall” and has felt neglected throughout his childhood. The youngest, who’s less than 2 years old, spends so much time with Kim’s friends, he’s begun calling them Mama and Daddy.
Dr. Phil warns Kim that being so dependent on her middle child can immobilize his development as well. “That’s not healthy for you or for him because it stops his independence; it stops his development as a child because he was born with a job,” Dr. Phil tells her. “His job is to make you feel better over the loss that you’ve suffered. So the child was born with a job … He’s got to be there. He’s got to entertain you. He’s got to comfort you. He’s got to nurture you … This is not healthy. Can you love a child too much? No. But can you love them in the wrong way? Can you use them in ways that aren’t in their best interest in the name of that love? The answer is absolutely yes. And I hate to see him pay that price.”
He tells Kim, “Your job is a mother of three. Are you a single mother of three? Yes. Is that hard? Yes. Does that put demands on you? Yes. Are you emotionally tired? Yes. But that doesn’t change your job
When parents focus more love and attention on one child, all the children begin to feel that their parents’ behavior is unfair and unpredictable, which creates resentment and uncertainty. It also affects sibling relationships, leading to higher levels of anger and aggressiveness. The less-favored child carries around feelings of not being good enough, wondering, “What am I doing wrong?” This leads to low self-esteem, anger and acting out for attention, even negative attention. The favored child will begin to feel his/her sibling’s resentment, and may even begin to hate being treated as the special child.
Dr. Phil cautions parents who play favorites and show preferential treatment to one child over another. He speaks with his guest, Kim, who says she can’t help but feel a stronger bond with her middle child because she’s still in love with his father, and still mourning their divorce. Dr. Phil tells her that what she’s doing is toxic to all her kids. The oldest, who’s 14, is still looking for that “soft place to fall” and has felt neglected throughout his childhood. The youngest, who’s less than 2 years old, spends so much time with Kim’s friends, he’s begun calling them Mama and Daddy.
Dr. Phil warns Kim that being so dependent on her middle child can immobilize his development as well. “That’s not healthy for you or for him because it stops his independence; it stops his development as a child because he was born with a job,” Dr. Phil tells her. “His job is to make you feel better over the loss that you’ve suffered. So the child was born with a job … He’s got to be there. He’s got to entertain you. He’s got to comfort you. He’s got to nurture you … This is not healthy. Can you love a child too much? No. But can you love them in the wrong way? Can you use them in ways that aren’t in their best interest in the name of that love? The answer is absolutely yes. And I hate to see him pay that price.”
He tells Kim, “Your job is a mother of three. Are you a single mother of three? Yes. Is that hard? Yes. Does that put demands on you? Yes. Are you emotionally tired? Yes. But that doesn’t change your job
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